Single Womans Guide to Dealing with Heartbreak : Part 1

He broke your heart & left you to die thats how it feels...You just dont know what to do...This is my way of dealing with heart break, use if required...

Cry your heart out Girl, it helps, let your tears flow dont hold them back...Allow all the anger and hurt inside you to flow away in form of tears...

Call all your friends to be with you,  dont have friends around lost them all because you were concentrtating on the bastard who left you to fend for yourself, when he had promised to spend the life with you - call any girl you trust & ask her to be with you...dont spend the night alone...

If you dont have anyone to talk to are feeling too depressed...feel that the life is worthless and without him around you just cant go on...Just call on any of these help line numbers please.

Befrienders India - National Association
c/o Sneha, 11 Park View Road
R.A.Puram
600 028
Chennai
Website: befriendersindia.org
Centres
Lifeline Foundation
17/1A Alipore Road
Sarat Bose Road
700 027
KOLKATA
Hotline: +91 33 2474 4704
Hotline: +91 33 2474 5886
Hotline: 2474 5255
Website: education.vsnl.com/n4h/
AASRA
A-4, Tanwar View, CHS,
Plot NO - 43, Sector 7
Koparkhairane
400 701
NAVI MUMBAI
Contact by: Face to Face - Phone - Letter:
Hotline: +91 22 2754 6669
Hours:
    Mon, Tues, Wed, Thurs, Fri, Sat, Sun: 09:00 - 21:00
MAITREYI
255 Thyagumudali Street
605001
PONDICHERRY
Contact by: Face to Face - Phone - Letter:
Hotline: +91-413-339999
Hours:
    Mon, Tues, Wed, Thurs, Fri, Sat, Sun: 14:00 - 20:00
ROSHNI
1-8-303/48/21 Kalavathy Nivas,
Sindhi Colony
S.P. Road
500003 A.P.
SECUNDERABAD
Contact by: Face to Face - Phone - Letter:
Hotline: +91 40 7904646
E-mail Helpline: help@roshnihyd.org
Hours:
    Mon, Tues, Wed, Thurs, Fri, Sat: 11:00 - 21:00
Saath
B12 Nilamber Complex
H.L. Commerce College Road
Navrangpura
380 006
AHMEDABAD
Hotline: +91 79 2630 5544
Hotline: +91 79 2630 0222
SNEHA
11 Park View Road
(Near Chennai Kaliappa Hospital)
R.A. Puram
600 028
Chennai
Contact by: Face to Face - Phone - Letter:
Hotline: +91 (0) 44 2464 0050
Website: snehaindia.org
E-mail Helpline: help@snehaindia.org
24 Hour service:
The Samaritans Sahara
Sir J-J. Road
Byculla Bridge
400 008
MUMBAI
Contact by: Face to Face - Phone - Letter: - E-mail:
Hotline: +91-22-2307 3451
Website: mumbainet.com/health/samarita.htm
Hours:
    Mon, Tues, Wed, Thurs, Fri: 15:00 - 21:00
    Sat, Sun: 10:00 - 21:00
Sumaitri
1 Bhagwandas Lane
Aradhana Hostel Complex
Basement
110 001
NEW DELHI
Contact by: Face to Face - Phone - Letter:
Hotline: 2338 9090
Website: sumaitri.org
Hours:
    Mon, Tues, Wed, Thurs, Fri: 14:00 - 22:00
    Sat, Sun: 10:00 - 22:00
MAITHRI - Cochin
Ashirbhavan Road
Kacheripady
Ernakulam Kochi
682 018
Kochi
KERALA
Contact by: Face to Face - Phone - Letter:
Hotline: +91 239 6272
Website: maithrikochi.org
E-mail Helpline: maithrikochi@yahoo.co.in
Hours:
    Mon, Tues, Wed, Thurs, Fri, Sat, Sun: 10:00 - 20:00

Remember Kareena & Shahid in Jab We Met, try it burn the photos , the diary , call him & curse him...it will make you feel good...just dont cry when you call him, nor beg him to take you back...

In part 2 we will start with starting the healing process...

Single Womans Guide to Dealing with Heartbreak : Part 2

Make a list of all things you hate about the Guy. Example,

1> The guy did not have guts to tell his parents about his love
2>  He was scared of the differences between you ( religion , age , class)
3>  He was cheater
4> Was dependent on you for everything
5> Did not share anything with you
6> Had a bad temper
7> Raised hand / voice on you
8> Used to swear
9> Used to be wimpish
10> Used to be domineering
11> Used to be over possesive
12> Used to flirt with all the females, even friends

blah , blah , blah , blah....

Go ahead it will make you feel better

Single Girl’s Guide to First Phone Call Date – Matrimonial Sites /Arrange Marriage/Internet Dating

I have been talking with a couple of guys selected from Jeevansathi/Shaadi or selected by my parents. During my phone calls which usually happen, before I have met the guy I realized that the first phone call can be tough. Its awkward speaking to someone whose biodata is the only thing you have seen. So, here is my list of tips for that first call to know the person & retain the interest (try it if you want but remember I’m still single)

1> Ask open ended questions – guys love to feel important, by showing questioning him & listening to what’s important to him you are engaging him.



2> Normally any guy who is calling you will want to make a good impression. He will try hard to carry on witty, fun, and pleasant conversations and use it to discover your interests and feelings –laugh at his jokes, have some of your own to share.



3> Don’t talk about breakups/past relations etc in the first phone call. Any unpleasant stuff you may be asked, should be answered wrapped in layers of humour



4> When you speak , speak with energy, and enthusiasm (don’t explode with enthusiasm or giggle like a crazy)

5> Don’t go on and on about a subject. If asked a question, give some information, and then smoothly point the conversation back to him

6> Disconnect the call on a high to make it memorable for him

Things you can talk about

1> Hobbies – Any shared interests will give you ideas for your actual date and an insight of the person he is

2> Growing-up years including education



3> General items in news that you can talk about



4> Likes & dislikes / habits – how do you match up, you may discover things that are a strict no to you ( chain smoking, eating habits etc)



5> Family – If you people end up getting married, they will play a huge role. His relations with his family will tell you what you may be getting into



6> Career plan – To give you an idea of his ambitions and all



Wish you all the best for your first phone call.

Finding an apartment on rent : Single girl's checklist

I have been living alone in Pune, for about 3 years now…Decided to look for a new flat to rent as lease was about to expire, was facing some problems with landlord and wanted to move to a place, where I will have some kind of social life.

Shortlisted Aundh as the final location, but finding a nice apartment to my liking and in my budget was a tough job.



Started with looking at 1 bedroom flat and finally zeroed in on a 2 bhk apartment. During this month long house hunt learnt that any single girl living alone should check the following things before finalizing the apartment.



1> General safety of location



2>Availability of parking space if you drive or distance from the bus stop / auto stand.



3> Frequency of public transport



4> Approach to your flat – is it well lighted & safe



5> Is there enough public around & is the area well lit during your normal commute timings



6> Actual commute timing ( it may be close, but due to traffic conditions , may take a longer time , so check it out before finalizing)



7> Never take a flat on ground floor – its easiest to break into



8> If possible opt for a flat in a society, with security guards. If not possible check with neighbours on security



9> Distance from nearest grocery store - you are bound to forget a few items, you wantesd to buy & a nearby grocery store will come in handy for those urgent purchases.



10> Type of landlord/society rules - you may want to bring over friends/your sister may want to come & stay/ your boy-friend may want to come over - check it out in advance how these may be viewed by your landlord/society & how strict they are about implementing those rules or you may find yourself searching for a new house.



Other things you may want to consider are nearness to gym/beauty parlour/home-delivery/mess/doctor/chemist etc.




Have fun, house hunting.

Single Womans Guide to Living Alone

GOING SOLO

There was a time – not a very long time ago, that young women would leave their parents home to build a home & life with their husband.

But now education & career are taking women away to different cities, states and countries – where they are totally alone (& independent) maybe for the first time ever.

If you are such a young lady going solo for the time – take care of the following points & have a great time, being your boss & living the life you deserve.

Choosing an Apartment
1> Security: Make sure that the area is safe (check with your new colleagues), apartment block is secure, has guards on duty (who actually o the job), check with current residents if they feel safe (in general you will too), check if approach road is well lit and has people moving around at the time you will be going out and coming back from office. A safe apartment may cost more, but is an essential not to be compromised on.

2> Budget : Decide on a budget and be clear about money you can afford to and want to spend on rent, based on these you'll need to find out what types of apartments are available in your price range. You may even want to share your place, so you can afford a bigger / safer apartment, or one that is in a more desirable neighborhood.

Household Chores

1> Food : Living alone, food is going to be a major problem even if you know cooking – simple reason you won’t feel like cooking for yourself, after a long tiring day in office. If possible invest in a basic microwave & freezer (you can cook your meals on weekends & freeze the stuff), you can also get dabbas or join a mess. If no such option exists ask your neighbor (aunty) if she can give you dinner on payment basis.

2> Maid : Hire a maid , your house will be clean & clutter free -believe me despite your best promises , you won’t be cleaning your house  as often as you would like & washing dishes & clothes will make you feel burdened and lonely.

3> Shopping: Find the nearest discount shopping store (a D-Mart may come out to be cheaper than Big Bazaar for you) do all your shopping in bulk – this will get you better discounts. For small stuff your neighborhood kirana shop is a good bet.

Beating the Loneliness

Work hard at making new friends, with your new colleagues. Gym can be a great place to start new friendships & to keep you looking great. Join a hobby club or take up some extra classes (you will have fun doing something you wanted to learn & make friends).